A View From The Pew


I am not a pastor, teacher, or even a speaker. I am an average member of the body of Christ. I have crippling anxiety about speaking in public, or being addressed directly in front of more than a handful of people. However, I do enjoy people watching and writing (even though I am not that great at it!).

These little articles are questions that pop in my head while watching people, and then I ask myself, and God, if it doesn't ‘sit right’ with me. I feel that He wants me to find His answer so I can help others who may have the same questions, by inspiring me to research His Holy Word to find the answer.

I am a simple member of the body of Christ’s church, a humble sinner, who finds it intriguing how the immortal Word of God still proves to be alive, and useful, in today’s world. We all just need to pray, read, apply, live, and share everything we read in God's word. It is not to be twisted or changed to suit our needs. We are to twist and change to suit God's needs. Everything written in the Bible can still be applied to our lives today; we just need to be open for it to work on us.

As with many believers who grew up in a Christian Home; going to church, and knowing the Bible is the Living Word of God, I strayed. I went from faithfully going to church when the doors were open, to promiscuous, worldly behaviors, not entering a church or expressing my beliefs. But through it all, I kept my beliefs close to my heart. I had a beautiful daughter, out of wedlock, who has been my Saving Grace. I felt I was married to her father, minus the worldly marriage license. So when we broke up, I vowed that I would never be with anyone else. That was not in God's plan. My ex passed away, allowing me (in my eyes) to find another husband.

Still in my backsliding ways, I met my husband. He believed in God, but really didn't know or understand Him, so when I started feeling like I needed to get back to a good church, and find Redemption with our Lord, he wasn't fully interested. However, he wanted to spend more time with me; he toured churches with me until I felt like I found my home. He also found a home. Not only did he get saved and baptized, but he is an active member of a beautiful, bible-believing, fundamental Church. I, myself, am trying to be the supportive Christian wife I am meant to be.

Everything I write about has been sparked by questions I have that have to do with me, my family, or my church family. These articles are the result of what I found in the Word of God.These articles are one person’s point of view, backed by research into the  scriptures. They are meant to open your eyes to yours, and those around you, surroundings and make you think about yours and others’ actions, behaviors, and thoughts.

Fill The Void

God created us and gave us two very important gifts;

1st: Freewill

2nd: Salvation

All people are born with an inherent desire to love and serve the Lord. We all, at some point in our life, realize we have a void in our lives. Because of Free Will, some people buy a lot of material possessions, or travel, to fill that void. Some fill it with drugs and/or alcohol. But none of those people can actually fill that void. Leaving them with more problems than before. Many spend a lifetime ‘chasing’ what they think is causing the void. But once they accept the second gift, they realize that the void was actually a home for the Holy Spirit to reside. It's time to fill the void with something permanent instead of temporary fixes. 

Why do you need to be filled with the Holy Spirit? You don’t lie, cheat, steal, or hurt anyone. You are a genuinely good and caring person. 

Let’s take a walk down the Roman’s Road to salvation.

Romans 3:10 says “As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one” which means no one is good enough, in himself, to get into heaven.

Romans 3:23 “ For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” No matter how many good things you do, or how good you think you are, we are all sinners.

Romans 6:23 “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord” God cannot look upon sin, but He sent you a gift of life through His Son who cleanses you of your sins. You just have to accept it.

Romans 5:8 “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” God sent His only Son to die on a cross, so we can live with Him for eternity.

Romans 10:9 “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”

Romans 10:13 “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

These verses are pretty self explanatory, not only do you need to verbally say that you believe that Jesus is the Christ, but you need to believe it in your heart to be saved from death. You only need to pray the sinner’s prayer.

Invite Him in

In your own words, pray in this manner:

“Holy Father, please forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me and make me whole. I know I am a sinner and not worthy of your kingdom, but I need you to come into my life to guide me, comfort me, and teach me to be the child you created me to be. Thank you for loving me enough to send your Son to die for me, then raised Him three days later,  so I can live in you. In Jesus name, Amen.”

Know Your Role

This is definitely a touchy subject for most people, let alone new Christian couples. When we hear that a wife is supposed to submit to her husband, some people think that she has no say, that she is in the background. The man of the house decides everything, is waited on, and can demand anything he feels he's entitled to being the husband / father of the house. If you think this way, you are about to have an Awakening…

What exactly does it mean for a wife to be submissive to her husband? Does it mean that she must wait on her husband, catering to his every need? Does it mean she has to lose her own identity so her husband can prosper? I don't believe God created woman to be a silent partner, doing the work while the man reaps the benefits.

 God saw that man needed a helper. Genesis 2:18 tells us exactly that: “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an help meet for him.” Dictionary.com defines the word ‘Helper’ as “A person or thing that helps or gives assistance, support, Etc.” That doesn't mean that the helper is any less important. On the contrary, without the help of the wife working with him, a husband cannot fully submit to the Lord. 

As we see in Genesis 2:21 and 22, 21) “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22) And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.” Woman comes from the man's side to be his equal; not head to be better than, not feet to be walked on. Equal in their servitude to God, not necessarily in abilities. (That’s another topic in itself) 

Wives are supposed to submit to their husbands as told to us in Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” But on the same note, husbands are to raise up their wives as we see in Ephesians 5:25 and 28 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it”....”So ought men love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” With that being said, Christ is coming back as the bridegroom to gather his bride (the church). We (the bride) are to submit to Christ (the groom).

He treats us (the bride) with dignity and respect, modeling how a husband should be treating his wife. As He would never put us in harm's way, He exalts us the closer we get to Him; a man should be doing so with his wife. Likewise, a wife should be showing her husband respect and not do or say anything to cause either one shame or guilt.

Christ doesn't shame or guilt us into doing anything for Him, He gently reminds us of everything He has already done for us. He doesn’t sit back and have us do all the work, He works through us, with us. With that being said, a husband is supposed to be giving support and love to his wife, not demanding anything; while assisting her in anything she is having difficulties in. While the husband should be treating her with love and respect